Stopping drinks after 4pm is not a good idea as it is important to keep your child well hydrated throughout the day and evening. This is for your child’s general health and the health of their bladder. Drinking good levels of water enables the bladder to reach its full capacity (when you get the sensation of fullness).If you drink less your bladder "adapts" by holding less before that fullness sensation. The kidneys also adapt if you don’t drink enough by re-absorbing fluid - causing the urine to become more concentrated. This in turn can "irritate" the bladder – and also contribute to bedwetting. So make sure your child has plenty to drink throughout the day ( NICE ( National Institute for Health and Excellence guidelines recommend between 1,000 – 1,400 mls a day for 4-8 year olds, about 6-8 glasses).

This is a very common question. However there is no evidence to suggest that this is true. DryNites® Pyjama Pants won’t cure your child’s night wetting, but they will help you both manage the phase with discretion and confidence.

No, there is no evidence that this helps and it might hinder. Most parents try this method at some point, as lifting their child from sleep and taking them to the toilet seems like a natural thing to do - to stop, or at least control, the bedwetting. But what it does is reinforce to the child that they can urinate when they are asleep. This of course does not help them to make that important connection between the bladder and the brain, so that they wake up or “hold-on” to the sensation of a full bladder.

Sleepovers do not have to be avoided because of bedwetting episodes. Discuss with your son a strategy that he would feel comfortable with; for example, sharing the situation with the other child's parents and taking supplies of absorbent sleepwear such as DryNites®. Work out how your son can get easy access to the toilet (many children are afraid of the dark) and how he would deal with any wet sleepwear discretely should he have an accident.

It does sound as if your son may again be constipated. Many children who are constipated “hold on” to their poo because the poo has become large and hard and it hurts to pass. You have noticed soiling (this may be soft poo) or staining in his pants. This is not diarrhoea, although it is easy to think so. It is the leaking of soft fluid stools round the build-up of hard stools in the rectum (the lower part of the bowel) – this is sometimes called “overflow soiling”. It is important that you sort out the constipation first, before you can help your son return to a regular and comfortable pattern of toileting. So I suggest that you see your GP straight away for an assessment and a treatment plan. If you would like to learn more about the problem of constipation, do visit the ERIC website.

It does sometimes happen that children of your daughter’s age – and even older - become dry at night, then start wetting again. We don’t know why this happens, but is due to the complex “skill” of night-time dryness not yet being fully established. It sounds as if you are doing all the right things – to reassure and gently encourage her. Make sure that she drinks well during the day (about 6 glasses of water-based fluids) and continue to make bed-time a positive experience with a cuddle and night-time story. This is likely to right itself quite naturally.

It is not uncommon for children of your daughter’s age to have the occasional wet bed; this may be the result of a particular worry, or being tired – or often for no apparent reason. It just means that her ability to “hold –on” to a full bladder at night (or to wake and use the toilet) isn’t yet fully “secure”. This should, in time, sort itself out naturally. I am sure that you are reassuring her (as I hope that I am reassuring you!) that many other children will be in the same position – and that it is not something that your daughter has control over.

Bedwetting Pants

DryNites® Pyjama Pants not only help children who wet the bed get a good night’s sleep, they help them maintain a sense of privacy and boost their confidence. They make managing bedwetting easier for you as well, by minimising night time disruptions and wet sheets.

DryNites® Pyjama Pants are available in three sizes: 3-5 years, (for Boys and Girls) 4-7 years, (for Boys and Girls) 8-15 years, (for Boys and Girls) See the complete DryNites® product range here

Nappies and nappy pants offer similar levels of absorbency. Nappy pants are designed to allow change without having to lie down. Pull-Ups® are designed for potty training: they have specific features like a learning liner that lets kids feel a brief sensation of wetness– an important indicator when potty training. Finally, DryNites® are for children who already dry during the day, but wet the bed at night. They are more absorbent and discreet, something that’s especially important for older children


There are a number of reasons for bedwetting. Understanding the possible causes can help reassure both you and your child that bedwetting is a common issue and not something your child has control over.

Please visit our article What causes bedwetting

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